Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage by Belle Burden is an introspective look at a derailed marriage.
Belle’s husband unexpectedly shares his request for a divorce at the beginning of the Covid pandemic. This happens right after Belle receives a phone call alerting her to his involvement in an affair with a married woman from his workplace.
We are taken through the early days of their courtship and marriage including how she went along with staying at home and giving him full authority over their finances. They developed a nice life together.
Belle is blessed to have a very strong network of family (mom, stepmother, brother) and close friends to support her through her grieving and beyond. She also never wanted for money and was well taken care of both with an apartment in the city and a home in Martha’s Vineyard. She purchased these homes with her trust money (albeit putting the residences in both of their names).
Belle’s husband became a cold, calculating person through the years of the divorce proceedings, including showing little interest in any extended time with their three children. She is devastated mostly because she never sensed any warning signs leading up to the divorce. She truly believed they were a happy marriage. She comes to terms with reality through the book as she navigates how others treat her as a divorcee and learning about herself.
I appreciated the straightforward writing style along with the use of italics for her inner rationalizations, which served as self-counseling through difficult situations. This narrative shows that even the most perfect-seeming relationship has many layers. Perhaps it’s impossible to truly know someone.